If this sounds like you, stop forcing it and move on!
Maybe he’s drop-dead-gorgeous, but dull as a doornail. Maybe he’s not your typical flavor, but you want to give the “nice guy” a chance. Or maybe you guys had great sparks in the beginning but once you moved past the texting for hours about how you feel about one another, found out you literally had nothing else in common. Sometimes you need to just look at the facts and realize, you’re not that into him. And really, moving on is best for both of you.
- You don’t get that tingle when he kisses you
When you’re with a guy that you’re into, his kisses aren’t just kisses! A kiss turns into many and you feel it from your lips to your toes. You know that feeling I’m talking about ladies–the one where every touch feels like a pleasure jolt. You get those butterflies that run up and down your spine and the moment turns from sweet to steam in T-2 seconds. This is what a kiss from HIM should feel like. If it doesn’t, press the stop button and evacuate!
- His texts come in at eight in the morning and you ignore it
We all love those sweet good morning texts. Lots of us look forward to rolling over and seeing “New message” from Mr. handsome. But if your morning phone check leaves you dissapointed or unaroused, He’s not the one, sweetie. Typically those mornings texts have a caffiene effect. They give you an instantaneous smile and have you holding your phone above your face with one eye open as you ponder what to reply.
- You don’t stay to cuddle
If you’re not compelled to wrap his arms around you or lie your head down in that perfect curve around his chest… If when the sheets go calm, you’d rather roll over and fall asleep… If you’re the one pulling the Ross “hug and roll”, well, you just might not be that into him.
- His “annoying” habits, really do annoy you.
When you move past the best behavior stage of dating, and you start to see all the annoying habits he’s been hiding –i.e. clipping his nails in bed, really loud crowd staring laugh, wall shaking snore, daily afternoon naps, etc. And it makes you want to ram something up his hairy little nostrel– he may just not be the one. We all find things about our significant other we’d love to change, but when you’re digging him, they come off endearing! He may be annoying, but he’s YOUR annoying snookums.
- You drink every time you guys go out
If you find yourself reaching for that liquid comfort every time you guys go out instead of engaging in fun conversation. If the only time you’re overly affectionate is when the hops are flowing. If you find yourself engaging with other people more than your man… well I think it’s time to call it quits. Drinking is a fun social habit, we all do it, but if you’re going out more often than staying in and you’re always getting sloshed. You might like the alcohol more than boo-boo.
- Staying in sounds like a drag
Some people are outdoorsy people, while other’s love to just enjoy each other inside. But no matter what kind of peeps you are, staying inside from time to time is something special. If you feel sharing these quiet intimate moments together to be boring or awkward, if you need a group or social setting to get the juices flowing, if just your significant others’ company doesn’t cut it, It’s dead and done!
Sure, these sound super straight forward and obvious, if you saw your friend in this kind of relationship you would probably say something–but when you’re so close to the situation it’s easy to overlook that you’re even feeling this way or may overlook that it’s not “natural”. Many of us find ourselves in a realtionship we’re unhappy because we’re comfortable, or we feel it’s a phase. But life is short and love is everywhere! Don’t force a relationship if it’s not everything you imagined it would be. Evaluate your relationship, make a mental pro’s and con’s list, and never settle!